a little bit of love.... continued

Eleanor Roosevelt has said , " A Companionship with your child must be built. It does not just happen".


That being said , how many of us make it a duty to provide our children genuine companionship, as parents. I bet if we took a little survey, 3 out of 5 parents tend to be detached as soon as their kids become 'symptomatically' teenagers. I would say I tend to do that sometimes, even when my Crusade seems to be to NEVER for a Moment Let my Child be without my companionship.


It may sound too pompous, but it is true. My little world revolves around my child without any impression of "overdoing" it or "choking" her, and , if I recall it right, there was never a social event or an outing she did not go with me and my husband, when she was little. In fact, we almost always declined those invitations where children were not invited !!!!!! Yes, such extreme sense of companionship is what I am talking about here. And even today, when my child is a teenager its of utmost importance that we stay very close, aware always of her where about. The parents today might say that this form of behavior might thwart or limit their sense of independence , absolutely not, if done in the proper manner. Who could ever complain, specially our own children of being ever 'loved' too much ?

Just a little bit of love is all that is necessary to foster a companionship with our kids. Just try it, it never fails. Once again, some may call it a cynicism or a behavioral abnormality to take things so far just to prove a point... but I don't really care. To me, when you provide such deliberate and committed sense of belonging right from infancy and into the teenage years, the chances that your kid will ever keep you out of her or his world will be quite unlikely, in my opinion.

Should we put a little bit of Love in dealing with the Teenage Kids of today ?

I am a parent of a teenager. Typically I could, as most parents would like to believe about their own kids, say that my kid is a straight A student and someone who is an 'Exemplary' kid in social norms , among the kids her age. This is due to the ideal parenting that we, provided her . As such, not only is she a Firm and focused person in adherence to her values thus far, but she is also able to address it with her peers and often guide them away from a path of drugs, Alcohol and some more 'taboos' typical of teenagers today!!! Of course, some of us parents might attribute all of this behavior , of being a Straight A student, not Dating ,doing Drugs, or Drinking to our 'Culture'. Well, maybe it is , who knows.

Yet as a mother, I'd like to believe that I have been quite 'focused about the kind of' social values and norms I want my kid to adhere to, right from the time she was born!
Thus while most parents wake up to the shock of finding their kids suddenly change in behavior and beliefs due to the tremendous 'peer' pressure, or as I like to call it, the "Terrible Twos" of High School Life, I was sure my kid would not succumb to be the Statistic, if I may. That is precisely the point of my thought, just do it with a Little bit of Love, everyday!!!

You will see that it never fails . It has its own rewards . Its a majical charm with kids, specially your teenager!